Goals Smoals and Mindset Moles

by | Jan 11, 2019 | Blog | 0 comments

It feels like New Year comes around much faster than before, but that is an illusion, because the minutes in the day has not changed in the last…..well; ever.

We get busier, cram more things to do into a day, we’re on for much longer than what is necessary, and our to do lists are endless.

Thinking of a New Years goal or resolution can make many of us feel anxious and like it’s another thing to focus on, get right, scale and tell the world about on social media. Maybe this year will the year you’ll get your health in tip top shape or get more organised?

Wouldn’t it be just fabulous if this year you could SMASH it, how would that make you feel?

Let’s think back to January 2018….

What was your goal, did you get there and if not, what got in the way?

Back to 2019, will this year be different? Do you need a more realistic goal or knowing that you get stuck and don’t know how to put the right actions in place to reach say goal, will you get some help?

Could it be that deep down you don’t really believe that you can achieve this; in other words, how is your MINDSET sabotaging your best efforts?

Having worked with so many women around their relationships with food and their bodies, this question always blows everything out of the water…

‘Do you believe you could achieve this goal you have set out on January 1st?  ‘Do you believe you can lose weight’ Do you believe you can have loads of energy, feel sexy and enjoy food without guilt’

Your subconscious mindset and old beliefs about yourself could be what is stopping all your good intentions in their tracks.

I would love to share how I help my clients with mindset changes and I hope this will help you with your health and wellbeing goals for 2019.

Here are 6 steps that could help YOU think differently about this years goals.

Here are 6 steps that could help YOU think differently about this years goals.

  • Write down your goal (and put it in as many places as possible so you see it regularly)
    • By writing it down, you are making it real and the chances of sticking to it are greater
  • Is this goal SMART?
    • Losing weight is not a goal, it’s too vague and it’s a dead person’s goal
    • ‘Losing 3kg by the end of February before my operation in order to have a great recovery’ is a goal and has emotional charge. It is specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound
    • Think of all the W’s What, When, why and at what cost?
  • What are the negative thoughts that comes to mind while you’re writing about this?
    • Is it ‘I will never be able to do this’ or ‘it is too hard’ or ‘does it really matter’ or ‘I’ll just gain it back again’ what is the point?
  • Write down those thoughts and mind chatter
    • Make a note of these things that come up for you, be real and dig deep
  • Start noticing when these ‘stories’ show up about yourself
    • When actively working towards your goal and these stories show up, notice them and name them. ‘Ah here comes the ‘it’s too hard story’ or the ‘does it really matter’ story
  • Remember your WHY
    • Once you’ve noticed and named your sabotaging thoughts around the goal, go back to reminding yourself of the reason you wanted this in the first place
    • If you’re motivation is not strong enough to continue, it may be time to revisit the goal

Most importantly: Practice forgiveness and be kind to yourself. Don’t skip this step. Just because you didn’t reach that goal last year does not mean you’re bad or wrong or not worthy. Put your hand on your heart, say: ‘I forgive you and I love you’ (like you mean it) and take the next step.